MyForce ScenarioStaying safe in today’s world means having a firm grasp of reality–both the harsh reality of the threats you are likely to face and the disturbing reality that help is much farther away than you think. In the “Known Stalker” episode of season 7 of The Best Defense, we illustrate this reality in a graphic and compelling way, in the process identifying the severe limitations of the traditional “just-call-911” approach.

In simple terms, when you call 911, the operator doesn’t know who you are, where you are, or what’s happening to you until you explain it. And trying to explain all that while you are under duress and trying to run, fight back, or access a weapon just won’t work.

If your safety is threatened, what you really need is a 911 “advocate”–someone who can monitor your situation as it develops, determine exactly where you are, and call for help when necessary, all while leaving you hands-free to protect yourself. Sound impossible? Well, it’s not. It’s MyForce–a revolutionary personal security service that combines state-of-the-art Smart Phone technology, highly trained professional operators, and your detailed personal profile into a powerful “guardian angel” that will get you the help you need, when you need it.

If you’ve seen the “Known Stalker” episode of The Best Defense, you’ve seen the game-changing advantages of MyForce in action. By visiting The Best Defense Plus, you now also have the opportunity to make MyForce part of your personal and family protection plan at a 20% discount off the usual price. Just click here to take advantage of this exclusive offer. You can also learn more about the limitations of the traditional 911 system and how MyForce technology overcomes them by reading the “911 Fatal Flaws” page of this web site.

Don’t fool yourself or your loved ones. Know what you’re up against and do everything you can to stack the odds in your favor with MyForce.

Stay safe,



In season 7 of The Best Defense, we included an episode that we’ve wanted to do for a long time–one that addresses self-defense for children. If you are a parent, you know that you would do anything to keep your child safe. With that goal in mind, two of the simplest and most powerful things you can do are to: 1) talk to your child about the realities of crime, violence, and sexual predators so he or she understands and accepts the fact that the threat is real, and 2) teach your child to fight back.

In The Best Defense, Mike Seeklander did a great job of explaining point 1 and what you need to do to talk to your child. Watch that information and apply it with your children.

With regard to the second point, I am a big believer in teaching kids practical kicks as primary self-defense weapons. Because adults are larger and stronger than children, children need to focus on using their “big guns.” Legs are stronger and longer than arms, so they give kids a very good fighting chance against an adult–especially if the kicks target the adult’s shins and ankles. As the old saying goes, “If you can’t see, can’t breathe, and can’t walk, you can’t fight.” Powerful, direct low-line kicks are a great approach to achieving the “can’t walk” effect. They are also easily learned because they are a natural extension of sports activities familiar to every kid–like soccer and kickball. Best of all, they don’t have to “finish” the fight; they just have to cause enough pain and damage to create an opportunity for escape.

With all that said, low-line kicks are by no means only for kids. Disparity of size and strength is a challenge that everyone needs to be concerned about in self-defense. If you are of smaller stature or simply end up being targeted by a larger attacker, your strikes to the head, body, and groin may not do the job. Vicious low-line kicks to the shins, knees, and ankles–especially when delivered with footwear chosen specifically for its “weaponized” properties–can be a much better choice.

For these reasons, my approach to unarmed self-defense, Damithurt Silat (“damn, it hurts a lot”) focuses a lot on low-line kicks, foot traps, and leg destructions. If you’re interested in learning more about my “take” on this topic, here’s an excerpt from Practical Unarmed Combatives Volume 3, which focuses on it exclusively.

No matter what size or age you are, you owe it to yourself to make practical kicking skills part of your personal-defense skill set.

Stay safe,



In the second episode of season 7 of The Best Defense, we examined the advantages of carrying a flashlight as a personal-defense tool. In addition to providing light to search for potential threats, having the capacity to disrupt an attacker’s vision from a distance, and ensuring proper target identification when using a firearm in low-light conditions, the flashlight is also an outstanding “first line of defense” when it comes to contact-distance fighting skills.

Flashlights fall into the category of improvised weapons commonly called “fist loads.” In simple terms, these include any object that can be gripped firmly in the fist so a portion of it extends from the bottom and/or top of the hand to serve as a striking surface. An aluminum or high-impact plastic flashlight has no nerves, so you can use it to hit harder and with more focused impact than you can with your bare hand alone. This not only makes your strikes more effective; it also makes it much less likely that you’ll injure your own hand when hitting full power—an important consideration if you plan to transition from empty-hand skills to the draw and operation of a purpose-designed weapon like a pistol or a knife.

In addition to a flashlight, one of my favorite fist load weapons is a tactical pen—specifically those made by Tuff-Writer. A tactical pen is nothing more than a high-quality, extremely durable pen that offers an extremely solid grip so it can be used as a striking tool. Well-designed tactical pens are also devoid of any sharp edges or protrusions that could damage your hand when used to strike. Best of all, because they are first and foremost pens, you can walk down the street with one in your hand without raising any eyebrows. You can’t do that with a knife or pistol. With a pen (or flashlight) in hand, you are armed with a very capable “immediate-response” weapon that you can bring into action instantly if confronted by a threat.

Remember, however, that the key to using a “tactical” pen or a “tactical” flashlight effectively is having the skill to put the “tactic” into “tactical.” Simply carrying a tool and hoping that it wards off evil spirits isn’t enough. You need to actually learn and practice the skills to use it effectively. To that end, I have created a very simple curriculum specifically geared toward developing reliable defensive skills with a tactical pen, flashlight, Kubotan, or similar fist-load-style self-defense tool. The hubud skill you saw in The Best Defense is part of this curriculum. The rest can be found in my two-volume DVD set Focused Impact, available exclusively from Stay Safe Media.

If you liked what you saw on The Best Defense and want to see more, here’s a sample of the other hubud skills you can learn in volume 2 of Focused Impact.

If you like that and want more, please check out the Focused Impact set and the tools available at www.tuffwriter.com.

I travel a lot, but I am never without my Tuff-Writer pen (and pencil) and a good tactical flashlight (currently a Streamlight ProTac 2L)—or the well-practiced skills to use them effectively.

Stay safe,